In wholeness lies the beauty of the soul.
— Radical Beauty

my life

I am a queer Latinx and believe everyone has a right to a healthy and pleasurable sexuality, regardless of age, orientation, gender identity, or ability. Since middle school, I have been the person people go to with questions about sex, their body, dating, and pleasure. At age 18, I professed that I would be “the next Dr. Ruth” and set out on a path to get me there. I obtained a Masters degree in Human Sexuality Education from Widener University's Center for Human Sexuality Studies and am a Licensed Social Worker (PA).

I co-founded SEXx with Dr. Timaree Schmit, that was inspired by TEDx and first held in May 2014, in honor of National Masturbation Month.  I have created and facilitated sexuality workshops and trainings for groups of all sizes. In my life I have and continue to work in reproductive health and justice, HIV prevention, queer Latinx community work, social justice, and youth development. I host in-home pleasure-focused sexuality education workshops and toy parties through My Secret Soiree. I have spoken to people one-on-one, as well as to 2,000+ person audiences about sex and sexuality. I am also one-half of Unatee - a queer Latinx owned and operated company creating products that promote love, unity and social consciousness.

I will continue supporting the empowerment of individuals and communities through individual coaching, capacity building trainings, sexuality workshops, public speaking, online resources, and in-home sexuality parties.


Elicia can easily adapt her communication to different audiences, having an implicit understanding of the need for cultural competency and a ton of practice navigating a variety of populations. She is highly organized, reliable, timely, and an incredibly hard worker. All this to focus on the process of getting things done, but it glosses over the best part of working with Elicia, which is that she’s a ridiculously fun human being to be around with an incredible positive, but relatable energy.
— dr. timaree schmit

MY MISSION 

I believe my purpose in life is to support individuals and communities to be sexually healthy and whole. Why? Because only certain people are allowed to be sexual, to have access to sexual and reproductive health, to seek pleasure. Our patriarchal, heteronormative, consumerist society forces some people to the margins, claiming we are "not enough" while pathologizing our sexuality. Comprehensive sex education is lacking, if not all together absent. Much of it narrowly focuses on disease/pregnancy prevention, "risk," and menstruation - all through a heterosexual lens. Young people grow into adults who are unskilled at navigating their own sexuality or educating children or young people about sex.  

 

we need healing

My hope is to help people first unlearn all they have ingested. Reprogramming involves nourishment, guidance, support, celebration, and pleasure. Sex is so much more than intercourse and procreation. It's about feeling: comfortable in one's skin, affirmed in one's gender, confident in one's decisions, validated for one's sexual desires.

Sex can be physical, intimate, spiritual, essential, and transformative

Only when a person sees their true beauty, celebrates their body, maintains agency over their sexual decisions, and embraces their sexual desire will they find inner peace and happiness. A sexually healthy and whole person is essential to a strong, vibrant, and joyful community.  

I dedicate my life to enacting this vision. And... 

As a queer Latinx, I honor and value people of all genders and sexualities. As a cis-gender woman, I assert my primary area of expertise pertains to girls and women. I believe that people from the represented community are the best people to speak about their lived experiences. I will happily refer you to any number of skilled and talented experts in my network who are better equipped to deal with communities other than cis-gender girls and women.